Saturday, March 25, 2017

Christian Dating And Courtship

  • Introduction:
          -This article is dedicated primarily to the people in the Christian community who are interested in, searching for, or are actively involved in dating another person of the opposite sex. Choosing the right partner for yourself is indeed a paramount decision, as will be explained on this page. So a few theological insights will be provided to help you choose the correct partner to marry. 
  • Marriage Is Permanent (lasts until the moment of physical death):
          -"For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man." (Romans 7:2-3)                 
          -"and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” 10 In the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same matter. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:8-12)
  • What Happens If You Choose The Wrong Spouse?:
           -According to the Bible, people who marry are stuck with the partner that they have chosen until one of the two passes away. If a spouse dies, then the living one is free to marry again. It is therefore best to marry another Christian.To marry somebody from a different religious or a secular background is not at all recommended because he or she could pose a great threat, if not a fatal blow, to one's spiritual life. This would mean that a once saved individual will be on his or her way to eternal condemnation in literal flames. Furthermore, a person who marries after a divorce is in the state of adultery, which will lead an unrepentant sinner to hell (1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Revelation 21:8). 
           -We need to stop judging people by worldly factors such as physical appearance, charm, intellect, and wealth. Neither should one choose a spouse on the basis of a mere profession of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ (Matthew 7:21). What a person should be looking at in a potential spouse is their overall doctrine and state of heart. It is better to suffer from the pains of loneliness than to make the poor decision of marrying the wrong person! Some people may have to wait a long time before finally getting married, like Isaac who was forty before he got married (Genesis 25:20). In fact, not everybody has been called to live a married life. And remember, there will be no marriage in the afterlife (Mark 12:18-27).

Marriage From The Christian Perspective

  • The Biblical Purposes Of Marriage:
          -For human reproduction (Genesis 1:28)
          -Love/Companionship (Genesis 2:18; Proverbs 31:10-31)
          -Prevention of lust through sexual satisfaction; "due benevolence" (1 Corinthians 7:1-5; 9)
  • Biblical Description of Marriage:
             -"And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE"and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?" (Matthew 19:4-5)

  • Biblical Responsibilities Of The Husband:
          -According to the Bible, the husband is supposed to show loving leadership over his family (1 Timothy 5:8; 1 Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 3:19). In other words, he is to exercise  complete authority over his household, be responsible, and thus provide for the needs of the household. The man is meant to be the head of the household.
  • The Functions Of The Wife:
         -The wife is supposed to be the manager of the home, but under the supervision of the husband. In other words, she is supposed to care for the children, prepare the meals, and keep the house organized (Titus 2:4-5; 1 Timothy 2:15; 5:14). The wife is free to take on other responsibilities, as long as they do not interfere with her mandatory duties (and thus distracts the husband from fulfilling his tasks). 
  • Submission To The Husband Does Not Equal Inferiority Or Lack Of Dignity:
        -Women are not in any way intellectually subordinate in nature or worthy of less respect than men. In other words, both genders posses equal intrinsic value because they were both created by God, who is no respecter of persons (Acts 10:34). Women are not merely slaves or indentured servants. Women can have their own thoughts. They have the same inherent rights as men.  
       -Wives have been called to be obedient to their husbands because man was created first in order and Eve was the one who was directed manipulated by the devil, who was in the form of a serpent (1 Timothy 2:11-15). The biblical form of submission to the husband, however, is totally different than the types submission described previously. This "obedience" actually points to the closeness of the two partners in marriage. It is the sharing of a mutual goal, a romantic partnership. It represents the different responsibilities that both leading figures of the family have, as described above. The wife of the household has indelible value and a vital role for the success of the family, regardless of whether she works outside the house or not.     
  • The Necessity Of Compromise:
         -In order for marriage to work, both partners must agree to fulfill the necessary obligations that have been assigned to them. No successful relationship can thrive without compromise. There has to be necessary conditions for the husband and wife to abide by, for the household cannot stand in a state of division, an individual cannot complete a job which requires many people to work together, and are simply limited by bodily design. 
       -Human beings were never meant to be stand alone creatures. In other words, we all have the inherent need for social interaction, mental settlement, and compatibility. We all need each other. Both genders, when isolated from each other, are essentially incomplete. One cannot survive without the existence of the other. In summary, I have been stressing the fact that compromise is an underlying component to human survival and rationality. This is why marriage must also have strict boundaries and obligations for authoritative figures of the family.