Jesus Christ often challenged conventional interpretations of Jewish Law when they conflicted with deeper spiritual truths. He healed on the Sabbath, touched the ritually unclean, and dined with sinners, actions seen as violations by some, yet none constituted sin. There is no Torah command requiring a dying son to entrust his mother to a biological sibling. To infer that Jesus had no siblings based solely on this act is speculative and circular. More importantly, Jesus redefined family in spiritual terms, emphasizing obedience to God over blood relations (Mark 3:33–35). This reorientation of familial bonds is central to His ministry, especially in light of believers being rejected by blood relatives over their newfound religious convictions.
His own family, at one point, did not believe in Him and even tried to restrain Him, thinking He was “out of His mind” (Mark 3:21). While Jewish law emphasizes honoring and caring for parents, it does not prescribe how that care must be arranged, especially in cases of spiritual estrangement. The notion that only biological children can fulfill this duty is not supported by Scripture. John, “the disciple whom Jesus loved,” was likely the most trusted person to care for Mary. Some traditions even suggest that they may have been cousins, further strengthening the familial bond.
The Apostle Paul, in Galatians 4:26, refers to the heavenly Jerusalem as the mother of the church: “But the Jerusalem above is free; she is our mother.” This metaphor spiritualizes the covenantal history of Israel, but Paul never applies the concept of spiritual motherhood to Mary. Even when referencing the virgin birth, he simply says, “born of a woman” (Galatians 4:4), without naming Mary or attributing any special ecclesial role to her.
In Romans 16:13, Paul greets Rufus and his mother, saying she had been like a mother to him: “Greet Rufus, a choice man in the Lord, also his mother and mine.” If Mary were universally recognized as the mother of the Church, it would seem unusual for Paul to omit her entirely in this context, especially given his theological depth and influence.